Be U: Change

Coming for the Real You.

I'm hoping to share thoughts, fun and insightful information and aha moments with all to better serve ourselves and the universe.

My background is that of Executive Secretary for the local Electric company (11 years).

Certified Personal Trainer (since 1991) and Fitness Consultant for my own company, Beachin Bodies (6 years) and certified in Reiki and Nutrition with training in Cranial Sacral work, Tai Chi, and Meditation. Certified as a Professional Life Coach (2015); Minister at Universal Life Church (2016);

and, possibly, most important,

my own journey through illness and avenues, roads and roadblocks that I have taken to find the real me. (35 plus years).

The me that I was born as. The me that is the all-knowing. I believe the search is endless and we are here to learn and to love and to share it all.

Friday, February 10, 2012

Change

While bringing someone into my home to care for them changes the dynamics of everything; it also 'wakes me up' to more learning and ability to grow, still, on another level.

The challenges of give and take; do it their way vs. doing it my way is very prevalent these days.

It's amazing the fight my aunt has in her to keep control of many things; even a simple thing like 'you put my socks on up to my ankles and I'll pull them up from there' can stir my own frustration and how much 'give' is too much. I realize that she wants to be able to do it on her own and her involvement in it helps her. And, it takes us so much longer to do it this way. I am learning patience in big ways.

I am also learning how to save and use some of my energy for me by saying no, or please wait, or I can't do it your way all the time. Note the word 'learning'!

I think I've let the five year old's feelings and beliefs go; and I am still struggling with always wanting to please. I did state I am not a robot that you can program while I was putting many things away exactly where they were being asked to be placed and exactly in the manner the placement should be done. Mmmmm

Give and take; give and take.

Something in me is telling me that this is my last big learning before I will fly again and live my own life as I seem fit. To live and breathe and do what makes me truly happy with very little negative (if any) effects. I don't know why I even think about negativity as I follow my own bliss. Perhaps, this is my exact learning in the now.

My aunt turned 91 and she is a 'whip' and learning to be in her 'chapter' of her life with ease, grace and allowance. When we discuss what is really going on in each other's 'beings'; we find great peace and connection.

Acceptance of the unexpected changes that are bestowed upon us is the secret. Knowing how to always do this is still amiss in me.

How are you at accepting and being open to what is in your life today? Where is your ability level in truly dealing with 'what is in your life now' in a loving, easy manner? Are you allowing your true essence to lead you?

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My Past Story

The first thing I would always tell a new doctor was 'my dad left me when I was 10'. He just disappeared, ran away. It was pretty awful for me. I thought it was my fault as most kids sometimes do. I thought I was unlovable. Years later, 20 maybe, I realized it wasn't just that my dad left me that affected my life, but also that my mom stayed. She stayed and I'll be forever grateful. However, her staying wasn't all peaches and creme. She was so hurt, so distraught, so frightened to raise three kids on her own and find a job that it was very hard for her to be there for me and my needs. I chose to shutdown, be quiet and try not to make it any harder on her as to not ask for much, or voice much, or need much.

Years later, in 11/12th grade, I noticed my fingers being really cold and hurting all the time. I noticed them turning purple and the pain was very 'loud'. Humorously enough, I had chosen to be a secretary and typing was a big part of my everyday. I loved it even. Fingers flying across the keyboard with as little mistakes as possible was the goal. I was pretty good at it. While in typing class, I remember putting my hands on my neck to try to warm them and make them feel better. I was naive enough then to think this must be happening to everyone.

Anyway, years went by and nobody was able to tell me why this was happening or what to do to make it better. Then, approximately 4 years later, I remember (what I felt) was little me sitting across from a really big doctor at his really big desk and him telling me I was allergic to myself. Of course, this was him describing to me what auto-immune meant. I had a disease called scleroderma and it could kill me (sometimes in as little as five years) and I would most likely be on medicine and have it for the rest of my life and there was nothing to change it.

Anyway, almost 30 years later, I've had my share of pain and I'm alive. I've had ulcerations on my fingers and I have lost most of my nails on both hands from lack of circulation and producing too much collagen. My hands are somewhat not a pretty sight and to hit something with one of my fingers by accident (well, I refer to the feeling as 'going to the moon).

When I was about 30, I started looking at alternative medicine and I tried anything that came across my path to try to stop the pain. I have tried many normal and not so normal 'ideas'. I sometimes do not believe at what lengths I went to try to ease my pain and suffering!

This is what has brought me here to this point in my life.

I'm grateful to be able to learn so much about myself and life and I wouldn't take it back (well, some days I might want to).

Something was telling me to blog. I really didn't know much about blogging - I am still a novice at best. Approximately 5 weeks ago, I sat at my computer and started typing.

I am surprised at where my blogs have led me. I thought I was trying to help others and that still is a big goal of mine. However, what I am finding out is that this is a great outlet for me.

A way to feel like I'm doing something. I told a friend this morning about my blog and I said that it's draining because I put everything out there and do not hold back as I post each individual blog; its fun because it does give me an outlet and I feel a little purpose in my life; and it's scary because I don't want anyone laughing at me or telling me that I am completely 'off my rocker'!