Don't Ever 'Should' on Yourself or Others

"It should be noted that even when the mind is disturbed and is reflecting back to the consciousness disturbed emotion or anxious thought pattern, the consciousness is aware of that disturbance, but on its deepest levels, it is still peacefully watching the disturbed mind.  All the mental anguish experienced is only on the superficial levels of consciousness.  That is why we clearly know when we are disturbed.  If the consciousness were to be totally disturbed, it could not even judge that it was disturbed."  An excerpt from the book  "The Scientific Proof of God, Unified Field Theory Explained" by Fredrick Swaroop Honig

Brilliant!

What I hear being said is that we are the watcher of what we think, feel and know.  We experience chaos and unrest, but there is also something inside of us that can step back and just watch the experience; the disturbance; the chaos and unrest.  This 'watcher' within us can choose to remain calm and peaceful to any experience.  It is what is underneath (or is it above) these feelings of discomfort and disruption that we know and can judge the experience as to what it is.  We don't have to completely immerse our self in it.  We do have a choice.

This is why I have said that I am okay even when I feel like I am not.  I can feel the feeling of not being okay and, yet, when I look, feel and connect deeper, I can know that in this feeling of not okay-ness, I am still okay.  I am here in this moment.  I am still present and living in this moment.  Whatever I feel is not all of me.  There is a me (or a divine greater power within) that can label what is being experienced.  The me that is labeling it is not fully in the experience, however, perfectly aware of same.

How interesting.  How fascinating.  How deep.  It just may take time to question this, experience it, wrap your head around it and believe it.

And, that's okay.  Wherever you are, whatever you believe, whatever you experience is exactly what is best to be for you.

Perhaps, just 'play' with the idea; be open to this possibility and see and feel your opinion, experience and belief in same.

What matters most is your truth; your experience; your choice that you choose.

May you choose what brings you most ease and peace.  Choose what brings you most self-assurance, self-awareness, self-love and self-help.

We are forever learning and changing; growing and becoming...  This is what human life is about.

Choose what feels the best for you.  Choose what creates your best experiences.  Choose You.

May you support others to do the same.  We don't have to all believe the same things and have the same experiences.  In fact, it is impossible.

We can still have respect, allowance, compassion and empathy for our self and for one another.

In this, we all experience life as we are supposed to experience life.  Pain, struggle and heartache, just maybe, doesn't have to be as prevalent as it may seem or feel just now.

I wish you your loving truth.  I wish you openness to another's loving truth.  I wish our world loving truth underneath (or is it above) anything and everything that separates us.

Get your groove on.  And may you never 'should' on yourself or another.  I know whenever I find myself using the world 'should', peace is not what is present or dominant.  Just sayin'...

Enjoy the ride.  Enjoy the experience of you.  If something doesn't feel good, change it.  If it cannot be changed, perhaps, change your thinking towards it.  Good luck.  YOU matter.  I care.

Where I'm At

Hello.  I hope this post finds you in a happy and/or content place and I hope that you are meeting life as it shows itself and presents itself to you.

I am learning that when I fight what is, turmoil ensues.   When I accept what is, I can be more true and come from a calmer place to meet life more easily as it shows itself to me.  

There are many things that happen in our lives that we don't go looking for.  They were not even on our radar, so to speak.  And, yet, as we stand in the moment, life happens and 'stuff' shows up and presents itself as completely unexpected.

Sometimes, the unexpected is a delight and better than what we were hoping for.  Other times, it is not delightful at all and feels completely challenging.

When we accept what we see, feel, know and experience and bring the truth of what and how we experience same, we can create the best possible path forward from the truth of who we are.  This is what seems to work most smoothly and vicariously in place of fighting it and becoming overwhelmed and going forward from a false, untrue place. False, untrue things often come from fear.  True things usually come from love.   

Through our false and untrue place, we scatter the reality of what is and open doors that wouldn't open if we showed up in our truth.

Truth does set us free.  We are living in truth whether we declare we are or not.  What is happening is true.  It is how we choose to see it that makes it true or not.  

Oh, I'm getting in deep here and it is unexpected (sort of - ha).  I just sit at the computer and put my fingers on the keyboard and see what comes.  This is what came.

It is not really where I am at...  Or it feels untrue to me anyway.  Hmmm.

What does feel true is that I feel like I'm exactly where I was when I first started this blog when scleroderma is the subject.  Yet, in reality; to bring reality present, this is untrue.  Yes, I am still living with this dis-ease.  I am not living with it in the same way as I was in 2010.  

I have a lot less energy; loud and clear.  I respond to my need for sleep and rest more than I did.  I am a lot less active out in the world.  And, what comes to mind is that even though it looks and feels like I am a lot less active, it certainly feels that a whole lot is going on.  Am I healing...  Is resting, quiet and solitude my healing...  Honoring my tiredness and not pushing through - is this the most effective thing I can do...  

I am so touched by how deep I have gone within.  I am astonished and amazed at how deep my depth goes.  I have been exploring my internal wisdom and 'stuff' for many, many, many years and [currently] I do not feel like I am close to the place that gives me enlightenment, wisdom, connection, peace and healing.  And, as I breathe what I type, I must be because I accept a lot more than I ever have.  I give and forgive with happiness.  I open and share.  I love.  I don't often try to change a thing in the moment.  I do often bring my truth into the situation and in doing this, the moment changes.  

I am tired.  My mind is tired.  My body is tired.  My spirit is tired.  My soul is tired.  And, if I had to guess, I would guess that there is so much tired going on because as I know my truth and desires, I am still not easily living them.  

I still don't want hands like I have.  I want to do Bikram yoga again and my fear is stopping me.  My fear of my inability is stopping me.  My heart wants it.  My mind won't bring my legs there.  Ha.  

Am I fighting with my truth...  Sure feels so.   It is extremely tiring fighting with and within one's self.  

I hear myself telling myself that this is exactly where I am supposed to be.  There is great lessons and depth right here where I am.  I still have more to learn.  This is how I am supposed to learn; right here, right now.

If I was out in the world and one person would tell me something other than what I know to be true, I would still doubt myself.  I am better than I was.  I am not where I want to be.  I am not standing strong in what is right for me.  I am not listening to the whisper of my loving inner voice or so it feels as such.   I live in false reality because I am stuck in the familiar.  I don't peak past what my heart wants to do.  

And, as I say this, I realize that I have gone on adventures with girlfriends.  I do connect with people constantly supporting the strength of others.  I do love the feeling I get when another feels less frustrated within their own life.  I love helping others to be the magic of their true self.  And, I hide.  I hide for fear of not being enough.  I hide for fear of being so different.  I hide in fear of failing.  I hide because what if I do get caught in my unable-ness.

But, what if I fly...  Wouldn't that be something else...  That would be fun.  That would be real.  That would be the real me.

So, as I resist all of these truths inside of me, I am still living in this truth.  However, it seems that the false truth is always knocking.  

Which doors will I answer.  I do not know.  All I can say is stay tuned if you want.  And, what I really want is ...

May you stay tuned to what you feel, know and are experiencing.  Stay tuned to what you are wishing for.   Stay in tune with your breath and your own heart beats.  Stay in tune with your challenges.  Stay in tune with all that you are.

Walk forward; stay still; live you...   As we all do this the best we can and support each other to do the same...  we create the best possible version of heaven on earth.  

May you respect where you are and respect yourself.  Love on from right where you are.  Love IN right as you are.  Love through everything that you feel.   Love forward and come home to you again and again and again.  Even if you feel uncertain, keep coming back to the love of You.

Issac Newton

"Truth is ever to be found in the simplicity, and not in the multiplicity and confusion of things."  Issac Newton

Truth.

Sometimes, I love this word...  Sometimes, not so much...

Here, I love it!

How true it feels that as I sit and know quiet, I sit and know myself.  I am the truth watching the judgment of truth and non-truth.  I watch the dilemma of knowing truth and untruth.  I watch myself living in the truth and untruths.

The me above it all - or do I say below it all - is calm, quiet, accepting and simple.  Outside of this 'me', is the complexity and confusion; the multiplicity of everything else.

To be human is to experience it all.  To be spiritual, is to experience the self as it stands connected to all that is without judgment but pure acceptance of everything that is.

Deep, man.   Deep.

This quote has touched me deeply and dare I say - in the simplest of ways.

I am the one breathing me.  And, am I also the one with the ability to watch myself breathing...

Deep.  Simple.  Truth.

May you decide what is true for you.  It is my hope that it brings you ease of happiness.

May you be YOU.   And, just maybe, may you be the one watching YOU...

Thank you.

State

Our world is in quite a 'state'.  I read where the sky (astrologically) has actually shifted itself.  Some people talk about this great shift.  The shift that has never happened before.  A shift that is like no other.  A shift that has been being prepared for since the beginning of time.  A shift that we are all here for and signed up for and agreed to participate in (together) in our 'life contract'.

I can't confirm or deny.  I can confirm how I have been feeling lately.

Tired.

I am not hungry.   I find myself not thirsty.  I find myself wanting to be alone, quiet and just breathing.  I find time zooming by.  I find myself very relaxed in my alone time.  I find myself very uncomfortable in my having to do anything at all times.  I know something big is going on.  I know many are being challenged under great distress.  I know many are being challenged deeply.  I know many are learning who they are from different viewpoints.

I know much is 'in our face' and much is unlike anything we have ever experienced before.

Warped speed; strong pressures; unknown and/or uncomfortable feelings; questions that have no answers to; connections that run deep; a desire to be deeper connected; unyielding feelings and feelings that will not go away unless we deal with them direct and honestly...  All these things are touching some of us.  Some of these things are touching many of us.  Something is touching all of us.

"In your face" the universe is saying and we cannot pretend otherwise in the way(s) we have in the past.

Your loving, true self is asking to be outed.  Our fears and concerns are wanting attention.  Our connections are wanting to be observed and lived through.  Our hearts are wanting to be loved.  Our minds are wanting to be heard.  Our beings are wanting to be seen.

ALL IS OKAY.

As you bring your true self into every breath with you and wherever you go, whatever you do and as whoever you are, you are creating fulfillment deep within.  This fulfillment will give you peace and this peace will grow through all of us and our world will be the world that most of us, if not all of us, truly want to reside and move around in.

It is time for a big world hug.   It is time for unity in humanness.  It is time to open the door to vulnerability to tap into everything that is meant for each one of us to experience, to learn, to grow and become.

It is time for us to meet ourselves where we are at and support the 'best of version' of each one of us.

I send out energy, you pick it up as love. You send out energy, I pick it up as love.  We send out energy, we pick it up as love.

We let love lead us.  We let love show us.

We don't fight pain and hurt with pain and hurt.  We deal with pain and hurt through love; our own love.  We don't answer hurt with hurt.  We answer hurt with love.  We don't answer anger with anger, we answer anger with empathy and compassion.

As best we can, we move forward in this way.

We become the healer and healed or we stay the hurt and hurting.

I want to be healed and the healer.  I can only do me.   You can only do you.

We live on.  

May you live on from where you are now as to where you want to be as to who you want to be.  This is where we are.

This is the choice we are being shown to step into.  Just maybe...

May you step on up...  or is it under...  or is it in...   You have the power to make a difference.  What you do; how you step makes the difference.

May you be aware of the difference you are making and may you feel great fulfillment in this choice.

The time is now.

May prayer, love, the Universe; God show you who you are meant to be and show you the way to be so...

You matter.  You are love(d).  You do make a difference.  You and your heart and your choices rock the world.

May you rock us all gently, lovingly, openly, truthfully, faithfully, and superbly.

You are where you are for real reason.  May you accept, learn, live it and share it from your most respectful of places...  deep within yourself.  

The true and loving 'state' of you is needed. You are needed.

May you show up.

Feels Like A Long Time

It has taken me 10 minutes to open my computer and to get on this blog hosted by Google.  This feels like a very long time in computer time.

I know they have not updated this site to work with the last few IOS systems and I am uncertain if they are going to continue to do so.  Security is apparently not as present as it once was.  I do not know how long Google intends to allow public use.  I know I have been grateful to have been here almost a decade; approximately.

Just in case, please, if it feels right to you, you can meet me at lisaungerer.com blog or any of the social media sites that I post to.

Of course, I would love to stay connected...  It is your call; your option.  Please follow your heart.

I wish you well.  I wish you happiness.  I wish you YOU always.  Just in case, I find myself unable to post here.  

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May you always follow your heart while connecting to your open mind.  You are brilliant.  You are brilliantly loved.  

One Step Forward; Two Steps Back

It isn't unheard of to take one step forward and two steps back.  It also isn't always fun.  And it does happen.

This is where I feel I am.  Stepped back.  Backed on up; I say...

I am not loving how I feel.  I am not experiencing feelings of freedom and ease.  I am experiencing feelings of stuck-ness and stiffness.

I am uncertain what my next step (or play) to take would be most beneficial.  I am not aware of a good idea or circumstance to create or open up to.  I don't easily come up with options of something to try or incorporate anew into my life.

My hands are purple.  My body is achy.  My head is buzzing.  My being is heavy.  It is not my favorite place to be.  And, I have been here before; many times.

I am thinking that this is life.  This is my life anyway.  This is also your life as you find yourself in this moment.  These roads heavily travelled and less travelled are all a part of life.  Some are supposed to feel better and happier than others.  It is 'helpful' to know what yucky feels like to know what wonderful feels like.

We humans have a way of labeling.  What if 'yucky' and 'wonderful' are just labels and the circumstances are neither.  Is this a possibility in the far reaches of our minds...

What if the position(s) we find ourselves in are just a part of our journey and everything is okay.  What if we are not supposed to feel 'okay' all the time.

In our okay-ness, we don't create and open to new ways.  In our not okay-ness, we look to create and open to new ways.

Oh the conundrum of being human...

I could easily want to beat myself up for not being in a happier state of mind.  And, that could just keep me in an unhappy state of mind.  What if I would just notice what I am feeling; allow what I am feeling; go with what I am feeling; process what I am feeling and watch it leave.  Our feelings always change in the current moments of time.

We can get stuck in feelings from the past but we do not have to.  Especially when we process them as they arise; we feel them and let them go.  We don't hold onto them.  This is my most enjoyable way to display and feel my feelings.  Feel them and let them go.

And, it doesn't always work.   What if when it doesn't work, it is because it is not supposed to...  What if it works all in divine timing...

May you let you feel, be, process whatever comes up for you.  May you let it be okay when you  take one step forward and two steps back.  

It is just a part of life.  We all do it.  We all experience it.  We can have a judgment and label it or we can let it be what it is.  Let us be who we are.

As long as we are open to doing our best; from the most loving place available to us, in the moment, maybe it is okay.

I am the self-proclaimed guru.  My life is not perfect.  I am challenged.  I cry.  I am unhappy.  I do my best to see life and feel life for what it is staying open to my own awareness.

Just what if I let these 'steps' be my dance in the moment.  As I feel stuck, stay open to my stuck-ness.  I know that I will eventually get unstuck.  In a moment in the future, I will be taking big leaps.

It is what we humans do.  Stay open to knowing when the possibility of same is here to grab onto and leap.  Stay open to miracles.  Stay open to possibilities showing themselves.  Stay open to trying anew.  Stay open to things that you have tried in the past and didn't work then.  Stay open.

Staying alive and dancing onward just may be the best thing we can do.  Breathing might be enough in some moments.

You will reach mountaintops.  You have in the past and you will again.

It is how we humans journey through life.

May you not be so hard on yourself.  May you believe in the journey that shows itself to you.  May you believe in the path that you are currently experiencing.

May you trust the process of life and trust yourself that you will know when you are supposed to know.  In the meantime, see and feel the beauty that is present in your life.  It is always there.  Sometimes, we just have to look a bit more strenuously to see it.

May you know the beauty of you.  May you experience the beauty of you.  May you believe in the glorious journey that is yours just now.  

You may be in a learning phase.   You may be in an experiencing phase.  You may be in a doing phase.  You may be in a stuck phase.  You may be in a joyful phase.  You certainly are in just what is and who you are.

It is all okay.  Breathe and love anyway.

Breathe/Breath/Air

Our world is in an interesting state.  There is chaos and pain.  There is happiness and joy.  There is calm and intense evolution and transformation.

We are evolving together.  We are pushing and pulling each other.  We are challenging and supporting each other.  We are sticking and flowing.

We are looking for fresh air to breathe and walk in.

Many talk about pollution and global warming.   Many talk about politics and the state of the union.  Many talk about tragedy and toxicity.

Again, for me, it comes back to what it is I am letting, allowing and breathing in and out.  What am I offering to the world as I know it...  What part(s) do I play in the chaos and the calm...

Perhaps, if we each could be aware of the role we are portraying and living in, this awareness could lead us to what really matters and touches us.  This is where we can do our part.

As each one does our part that is inside of us to do, we evolve and create our world individually, together.

As we breathe the same air; live under the same sun; feel the ripple effect from each other, we can choose to add to the calm or add to the chaos.

We can choose to do our best by being open to living our best.

Love and support the people you can.  Love and support your cause through love and support.

There is no way one person can do it all.  But as we do it all individually, together, perhaps, we can breathe easier, know more freedom for all living beings and STOP THE SUFFERING.

I was dubbed the 'spiritual healer' from my family.  I want to be the spiritual healer; a spiritual healer.
I want you to be happy and content and breathe freely with your spirit.  To let it feel light and open it up to awareness and enlightenment.

I'd love us not to run away but run towards what makes our spirit soar.

As all our spirits soar, our world gravitates higher and higher.  Let us create the vibration of healing.

May we breathe in and out our best vibes.  May we meet each other where there can be progress and great fulfillment.  May we help the earth and all its inhabitants to smile and feel safe.  May we connect to our universal breath as one.  May we let beauty breathe through us so much that ugly has no where to live.  

I so want to live in a world of peace and harmony.  I so want to do my part in this.  We must believe it possible.  I know there are some that do not.  Just what if it was possible.  More possible then in the way we are living now.  Would you want to live in peace and harmony with some very exciting times...

Open up and live as such.  As you do, people around you have a better opportunity to do the same.

Healing is about walking in peace with what is...  May you help yourself and others be healed; when and if you are ready.

Heal on YOU.  Heal on World.  Heal on...

May you heal on...

Let each breath be about breathing in and out an air of healing.