Be U: Owning

Coming for the Real You.

I'm hoping to share thoughts, fun and insightful information and aha moments with all to better serve ourselves and the universe.

My background is that of Executive Secretary for the local Electric company (11 years).

Certified Personal Trainer (since 1991) and Fitness Consultant for my own company, Beachin Bodies (6 years) and certified in Reiki and Nutrition with training in Cranial Sacral work, Tai Chi, and Meditation. Certified as a Professional Life Coach (2015); Minister at Universal Life Church (2016);

and, possibly, most important,

my own journey through illness and avenues, roads and roadblocks that I have taken to find the real me. (35 plus years).

The me that I was born as. The me that is the all-knowing. I believe the search is endless and we are here to learn and to love and to share it all.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Owning

I'm realizing I'm owning way too much what is not mine. Heartbreak, turmoil, pain, and others' truth is just that; others.

I care and want to help and I have to have a boundary of what is theirs and what is mine. Perhaps, I can even go as far to say that owning more of mine and less of others just might be my next project.

I have a lot of good and instead of focusing on this, I am, perhaps, too focused on what is not good and my own and others' struggles as well.

I wish I was taught boundaries, love of self, money and just life in general in school rather than some of the things I was taught by memorization, reading and listening to lectures.

It would have been very helpful to me to be told that I can take up space in this world and that I matter and that all of us are important and that each one of us has a reason to be here on this earth now at this time. I would have liked to have heard that while we can show and share compassion and empathy for one another, it is still individual journeys that we all must take and it can be exciting and wonderful and that there is beauty even in the ugliness.

I believe there would be less ugliness if we all could look in the mirror and tell ourselves we love ourselves and that we matter while we honor other people's journey and that we are here to journey, own and experience exactly what is put in front of us.

Our thoughts and feelings are real and they matter AND that they can even guide us into the best forward path possible.

We take babies out of hospitals whether we know what to do with them or not. We marry whether we know what we are getting ourselves into or not. We take on things that we have no way of knowing the outcome. I find much fascinating and exciting. Adventure is a great thing. Adventure with some knowledge may be even better.

To listen to one's own self instead of wanting answers outside of our self may be a good thing to teach in schools also.

Just thinking in writing.

May you own what is yours, let go of what is not and easily know the difference.

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My Past Story

The first thing I would always tell a new doctor was 'my dad left me when I was 10'. He just disappeared, ran away. It was pretty awful for me. I thought it was my fault as most kids sometimes do. I thought I was unlovable. Years later, 20 maybe, I realized it wasn't just that my dad left me that affected my life, but also that my mom stayed. She stayed and I'll be forever grateful. However, her staying wasn't all peaches and creme. She was so hurt, so distraught, so frightened to raise three kids on her own and find a job that it was very hard for her to be there for me and my needs. I chose to shutdown, be quiet and try not to make it any harder on her as to not ask for much, or voice much, or need much.

Years later, in 11/12th grade, I noticed my fingers being really cold and hurting all the time. I noticed them turning purple and the pain was very 'loud'. Humorously enough, I had chosen to be a secretary and typing was a big part of my everyday. I loved it even. Fingers flying across the keyboard with as little mistakes as possible was the goal. I was pretty good at it. While in typing class, I remember putting my hands on my neck to try to warm them and make them feel better. I was naive enough then to think this must be happening to everyone.

Anyway, years went by and nobody was able to tell me why this was happening or what to do to make it better. Then, approximately 4 years later, I remember (what I felt) was little me sitting across from a really big doctor at his really big desk and him telling me I was allergic to myself. Of course, this was him describing to me what auto-immune meant. I had a disease called scleroderma and it could kill me (sometimes in as little as five years) and I would most likely be on medicine and have it for the rest of my life and there was nothing to change it.

Anyway, almost 30 years later, I've had my share of pain and I'm alive. I've had ulcerations on my fingers and I have lost most of my nails on both hands from lack of circulation and producing too much collagen. My hands are somewhat not a pretty sight and to hit something with one of my fingers by accident (well, I refer to the feeling as 'going to the moon).

When I was about 30, I started looking at alternative medicine and I tried anything that came across my path to try to stop the pain. I have tried many normal and not so normal 'ideas'. I sometimes do not believe at what lengths I went to try to ease my pain and suffering!

This is what has brought me here to this point in my life.

I'm grateful to be able to learn so much about myself and life and I wouldn't take it back (well, some days I might want to).

Something was telling me to blog. I really didn't know much about blogging - I am still a novice at best. Approximately 5 weeks ago, I sat at my computer and started typing.

I am surprised at where my blogs have led me. I thought I was trying to help others and that still is a big goal of mine. However, what I am finding out is that this is a great outlet for me.

A way to feel like I'm doing something. I told a friend this morning about my blog and I said that it's draining because I put everything out there and do not hold back as I post each individual blog; its fun because it does give me an outlet and I feel a little purpose in my life; and it's scary because I don't want anyone laughing at me or telling me that I am completely 'off my rocker'!