Be U: Where I'm At

Coming for the Real You.

I'm hoping to share thoughts, fun and insightful information and aha moments with all to better serve ourselves and the universe.

My background is that of Executive Secretary for the local Electric company (11 years).

Certified Personal Trainer (since 1991) and Fitness Consultant for my own company, Beachin Bodies (6 years) and certified in Reiki and Nutrition with training in Cranial Sacral work, Tai Chi, and Meditation. Certified as a Professional Life Coach (2015); Minister at Universal Life Church (2016);

and, possibly, most important,

my own journey through illness and avenues, roads and roadblocks that I have taken to find the real me. (35 plus years).

The me that I was born as. The me that is the all-knowing. I believe the search is endless and we are here to learn and to love and to share it all.

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Where I'm At

I'm not content where I'm at. To me this is just about the same as saying that I'm not sure where I'm at because I'm surely not staying 'here'. Transitioning from an old life to a new life is quite the change and challenge. It offers many opportunities to learn about myself; my life; the people in my life and what makes me comfortable and what throws me out of sync.

I am learning that for each situation, I can choose my own response. I can choose comfort or I can choose dis-ease. I choose comfort. I'm choosing comfort in this moment because the dis-ease is not fun. I am going to better embrace where I am and not only know that this is exactly where it is best for me to be just now; but be loving, open, trusting, and easily amused by the discomfort that arises when I feel out of my element and/or safety zone.

I knew anger today. Anger and I were never friends. We didn't even coexist. We just pretended like the other did not exist. I was afraid of anger. Anger did dare come up to 'greet' me.

Well, today, anger and I saw each other for one of few times our paths have crossed. It almost felt empowering if it wasn't still so scary for me. I didn't like how my anger made another person feel. It made me feel less than kind/caring/positive.

While I know anger is only an emotion, I also know if anger is expressed not at someone, but in a way that I feel it, acknowledge it, process it, learn from it and let it go; it is way less hurtful and most productive. I did this also today.

I voiced my anger, questioned my anger, discussed my anger and explained my anger. This got me past my anger and to love. It was quite exceptional.

Anger can be very helpful to propel one out of or away from a situation that doesn't satisfy my soul. I invite anger to be my friend. However, I invite it as such to show itself but allow me to express it in a loving, productive way without creating a defensive line towards me.!

May you realize what and why your anger arises and may you share it with the 'situation' that creates the anger and may you dare to process through it lovingly, openly and truthfully.

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My Past Story

The first thing I would always tell a new doctor was 'my dad left me when I was 10'. He just disappeared, ran away. It was pretty awful for me. I thought it was my fault as most kids sometimes do. I thought I was unlovable. Years later, 20 maybe, I realized it wasn't just that my dad left me that affected my life, but also that my mom stayed. She stayed and I'll be forever grateful. However, her staying wasn't all peaches and creme. She was so hurt, so distraught, so frightened to raise three kids on her own and find a job that it was very hard for her to be there for me and my needs. I chose to shutdown, be quiet and try not to make it any harder on her as to not ask for much, or voice much, or need much.

Years later, in 11/12th grade, I noticed my fingers being really cold and hurting all the time. I noticed them turning purple and the pain was very 'loud'. Humorously enough, I had chosen to be a secretary and typing was a big part of my everyday. I loved it even. Fingers flying across the keyboard with as little mistakes as possible was the goal. I was pretty good at it. While in typing class, I remember putting my hands on my neck to try to warm them and make them feel better. I was naive enough then to think this must be happening to everyone.

Anyway, years went by and nobody was able to tell me why this was happening or what to do to make it better. Then, approximately 4 years later, I remember (what I felt) was little me sitting across from a really big doctor at his really big desk and him telling me I was allergic to myself. Of course, this was him describing to me what auto-immune meant. I had a disease called scleroderma and it could kill me (sometimes in as little as five years) and I would most likely be on medicine and have it for the rest of my life and there was nothing to change it.

Anyway, almost 30 years later, I've had my share of pain and I'm alive. I've had ulcerations on my fingers and I have lost most of my nails on both hands from lack of circulation and producing too much collagen. My hands are somewhat not a pretty sight and to hit something with one of my fingers by accident (well, I refer to the feeling as 'going to the moon).

When I was about 30, I started looking at alternative medicine and I tried anything that came across my path to try to stop the pain. I have tried many normal and not so normal 'ideas'. I sometimes do not believe at what lengths I went to try to ease my pain and suffering!

This is what has brought me here to this point in my life.

I'm grateful to be able to learn so much about myself and life and I wouldn't take it back (well, some days I might want to).

Something was telling me to blog. I really didn't know much about blogging - I am still a novice at best. Approximately 5 weeks ago, I sat at my computer and started typing.

I am surprised at where my blogs have led me. I thought I was trying to help others and that still is a big goal of mine. However, what I am finding out is that this is a great outlet for me.

A way to feel like I'm doing something. I told a friend this morning about my blog and I said that it's draining because I put everything out there and do not hold back as I post each individual blog; its fun because it does give me an outlet and I feel a little purpose in my life; and it's scary because I don't want anyone laughing at me or telling me that I am completely 'off my rocker'!