Be U: Celebrating Thankfulness

Coming for the Real You.

I'm hoping to share thoughts, fun and insightful information and aha moments with all to better serve ourselves and the universe.

My background is that of Executive Secretary for the local Electric company (11 years).

Certified Personal Trainer (since 1991) and Fitness Consultant for my own company, Beachin Bodies (6 years) and certified in Reiki and Nutrition with training in Cranial Sacral work, Tai Chi, and Meditation. Certified as a Professional Life Coach (2015); Minister at Universal Life Church (2016);

and, possibly, most important,

my own journey through illness and avenues, roads and roadblocks that I have taken to find the real me. (35 plus years).

The me that I was born as. The me that is the all-knowing. I believe the search is endless and we are here to learn and to love and to share it all.

Sunday, November 24, 2013

Celebrating Thankfulness

We are celebrating Thanksgiving today as a family because my daughter is going to Pennsylvania for the actual holiday.

I am learning that I had much comfort and self satisfaction in my home in Pennsylvania. Where I am now is quite different than the ease of my home built to my specs with my comfort of who I am and what I'm about.

I became dependent on the house to be part of my self worth. I allowed material things to comfort me and help me to feel worthy of a good, comfortable life.

I'm not very comfortable where I am just now. I find myself miserable, at times, because of this. I find myself ashamed at the feelings I am feeling and anger at not making today only about the people I am with.   I find myself angry that I cannot set a nice and beautiful table.   I find myself frustrated that we are all piling on top of each other to complete the tasks at hand.

My husband has done all the shopping and is cooking the meal. I am grateful for him. I am grateful for the meal. I am grateful that we are all together.

It is not in open space. It is not with fancy dishes. It is not in complete comfort and beauty.

While this feels not easy, I know that this is a great gift. We have to stay more connected.  We offer each other more help and support. We invite a beautiful friend that means much to all of us.

So, while preparing and thinking about the 'feast', I feel stressed, unhappy and mad at myself that this is where I find myself AND I also know that I am learning, seeing and feeling different things and experiencing myself in a new situation; a different situation than what I have achieved previously.

My Little Bear is walking much better. However, this morning she is sick to her stomach. I think it may be the anti-inflammatory medicine she was given on Friday and Saturday.

I sit 'between times' and I am open to learn, to give, to be and to love. I am also learning how to receive and let others help me with their words, their love and their gifts of who they are.

Wow, I am way out of my comfort zone.   I do not feel okay.   I know that I am okay. I walk on. I am blessed.

May you walk on and through all the comfort and discomfort that you find yourself knowing. All of it together is what makes you you.

May you love (regardless of the comfort levels you find yourself experiencing) as life moves on, in, through and around you - May you love.

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My Past Story

The first thing I would always tell a new doctor was 'my dad left me when I was 10'. He just disappeared, ran away. It was pretty awful for me. I thought it was my fault as most kids sometimes do. I thought I was unlovable. Years later, 20 maybe, I realized it wasn't just that my dad left me that affected my life, but also that my mom stayed. She stayed and I'll be forever grateful. However, her staying wasn't all peaches and creme. She was so hurt, so distraught, so frightened to raise three kids on her own and find a job that it was very hard for her to be there for me and my needs. I chose to shutdown, be quiet and try not to make it any harder on her as to not ask for much, or voice much, or need much.

Years later, in 11/12th grade, I noticed my fingers being really cold and hurting all the time. I noticed them turning purple and the pain was very 'loud'. Humorously enough, I had chosen to be a secretary and typing was a big part of my everyday. I loved it even. Fingers flying across the keyboard with as little mistakes as possible was the goal. I was pretty good at it. While in typing class, I remember putting my hands on my neck to try to warm them and make them feel better. I was naive enough then to think this must be happening to everyone.

Anyway, years went by and nobody was able to tell me why this was happening or what to do to make it better. Then, approximately 4 years later, I remember (what I felt) was little me sitting across from a really big doctor at his really big desk and him telling me I was allergic to myself. Of course, this was him describing to me what auto-immune meant. I had a disease called scleroderma and it could kill me (sometimes in as little as five years) and I would most likely be on medicine and have it for the rest of my life and there was nothing to change it.

Anyway, almost 30 years later, I've had my share of pain and I'm alive. I've had ulcerations on my fingers and I have lost most of my nails on both hands from lack of circulation and producing too much collagen. My hands are somewhat not a pretty sight and to hit something with one of my fingers by accident (well, I refer to the feeling as 'going to the moon).

When I was about 30, I started looking at alternative medicine and I tried anything that came across my path to try to stop the pain. I have tried many normal and not so normal 'ideas'. I sometimes do not believe at what lengths I went to try to ease my pain and suffering!

This is what has brought me here to this point in my life.

I'm grateful to be able to learn so much about myself and life and I wouldn't take it back (well, some days I might want to).

Something was telling me to blog. I really didn't know much about blogging - I am still a novice at best. Approximately 5 weeks ago, I sat at my computer and started typing.

I am surprised at where my blogs have led me. I thought I was trying to help others and that still is a big goal of mine. However, what I am finding out is that this is a great outlet for me.

A way to feel like I'm doing something. I told a friend this morning about my blog and I said that it's draining because I put everything out there and do not hold back as I post each individual blog; its fun because it does give me an outlet and I feel a little purpose in my life; and it's scary because I don't want anyone laughing at me or telling me that I am completely 'off my rocker'!