Be U: Chores

Coming for the Real You.

I'm hoping to share thoughts, fun and insightful information and aha moments with all to better serve ourselves and the universe.

My background is that of Executive Secretary for the local Electric company (11 years).

Certified Personal Trainer (since 1991) and Fitness Consultant for my own company, Beachin Bodies (6 years) and certified in Reiki and Nutrition with training in Cranial Sacral work, Tai Chi, and Meditation. Certified as a Professional Life Coach (2015); Minister at Universal Life Church (2016);

and, possibly, most important,

my own journey through illness and avenues, roads and roadblocks that I have taken to find the real me. (35 plus years).

The me that I was born as. The me that is the all-knowing. I believe the search is endless and we are here to learn and to love and to share it all.

Sunday, October 16, 2011

Chores

When I am away from my home, I feel alive, happy and loved. I want to get out of bed and get up and 'do the day'.

When I am home; I am wondering what I am telling myself that makes me feel sad, depressed and alone.

Is it because I never stayed home as a child. I never had a loving, 'together', relaxed family atmosphere.

Is it just a long, endured, learned habit to be out and about doing and being.

Can I learn to do and be BETTER at my adult home.

It's a lovely home. I have everything I could possibly want and need. All I see is work; what feels like a huge chore.

Can I learn to have clients here in the gym, aerobic, yoga, massage, sauna area? Can I learn to feel alive here again?

The first several years (maybe 10) of clearing the land, having the house designed and built, getting it up and running was a real joy for me. We had parties, fun, celebrations all the time. Somehow, I have let it turn into more of a burden than a joy the last 2 years or so.

Is it since we sold our Florida escape home? It was nice being in Pennsylvania 6 months and Florida for 6 months. When I got 'tired' with one life, it seemed I could go on with the other. Yet, not having deep roots any one place was sometimes difficult. I am realizing that I have lived all of my life this way. As a teen, driving around so I didn't have to go home. In my 20s, running to the shore, to a rental property, every weekend during the summers. Living at the shore but working 80 miles (one way) away 5 days a week. In my 30's, relocating back and forth from the New Jersey shore to Valley Forge, Pennsylvania and living in a condo while building a home for more than one year. In my 40's, owning and taking care of four homes - 2 rental properties and 2 of my own homes, each having one in Pennsylvania and one in Florida. Now, in my 50's, I have one pretty big home in Pennsylvania and no where to run to. Mmmmm. Do I dare settle down and grow roots somewhere? Do I know how? Do I want to know how?

This facing what is and owning what I do and am is no small, nor fun, feat. I'm just sayin.

What does Dr. Phil say, 'if you don't acknowledge it, you can't change it'. Oh, it is so not fun to really look at and acknowledge alot of things!

Ok. I acknowledged where I am today. Now, to the changing part..... (I do not feel different yet!)

Where do you feel most alive, happy and loved? May you have it each and every day; if only for moments.

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My Past Story

The first thing I would always tell a new doctor was 'my dad left me when I was 10'. He just disappeared, ran away. It was pretty awful for me. I thought it was my fault as most kids sometimes do. I thought I was unlovable. Years later, 20 maybe, I realized it wasn't just that my dad left me that affected my life, but also that my mom stayed. She stayed and I'll be forever grateful. However, her staying wasn't all peaches and creme. She was so hurt, so distraught, so frightened to raise three kids on her own and find a job that it was very hard for her to be there for me and my needs. I chose to shutdown, be quiet and try not to make it any harder on her as to not ask for much, or voice much, or need much.

Years later, in 11/12th grade, I noticed my fingers being really cold and hurting all the time. I noticed them turning purple and the pain was very 'loud'. Humorously enough, I had chosen to be a secretary and typing was a big part of my everyday. I loved it even. Fingers flying across the keyboard with as little mistakes as possible was the goal. I was pretty good at it. While in typing class, I remember putting my hands on my neck to try to warm them and make them feel better. I was naive enough then to think this must be happening to everyone.

Anyway, years went by and nobody was able to tell me why this was happening or what to do to make it better. Then, approximately 4 years later, I remember (what I felt) was little me sitting across from a really big doctor at his really big desk and him telling me I was allergic to myself. Of course, this was him describing to me what auto-immune meant. I had a disease called scleroderma and it could kill me (sometimes in as little as five years) and I would most likely be on medicine and have it for the rest of my life and there was nothing to change it.

Anyway, almost 30 years later, I've had my share of pain and I'm alive. I've had ulcerations on my fingers and I have lost most of my nails on both hands from lack of circulation and producing too much collagen. My hands are somewhat not a pretty sight and to hit something with one of my fingers by accident (well, I refer to the feeling as 'going to the moon).

When I was about 30, I started looking at alternative medicine and I tried anything that came across my path to try to stop the pain. I have tried many normal and not so normal 'ideas'. I sometimes do not believe at what lengths I went to try to ease my pain and suffering!

This is what has brought me here to this point in my life.

I'm grateful to be able to learn so much about myself and life and I wouldn't take it back (well, some days I might want to).

Something was telling me to blog. I really didn't know much about blogging - I am still a novice at best. Approximately 5 weeks ago, I sat at my computer and started typing.

I am surprised at where my blogs have led me. I thought I was trying to help others and that still is a big goal of mine. However, what I am finding out is that this is a great outlet for me.

A way to feel like I'm doing something. I told a friend this morning about my blog and I said that it's draining because I put everything out there and do not hold back as I post each individual blog; its fun because it does give me an outlet and I feel a little purpose in my life; and it's scary because I don't want anyone laughing at me or telling me that I am completely 'off my rocker'!