'Should'

I was taking a class on ‘walking a labyrinth’ and the instructor mentions how whenever she finds herself or hears another using the word ‘should’, it is never accompanied by peace, calm or loving supportiveness (my words).   I ‘played’ with this for awhile and realized, for me, this is true.  I decided to delete this word from my vocabulary.

Who says I should...  What says I should...  If it doesn't feel right within me, why would I want to believe or react/act to a 'should'...

Of course, there are things that are better if we do them.  There are things to react and act on that better our lives.  They do not have to come from a should.  I find it is better and more sustainable when should is not involved.

Perhaps, ‘test’ it for yourself and decide whether to keep should or delete should from your everyday vocabulary.   Does it support your best self...   And ‘how’s it working for you‘...

May you be aware of the 'shoulds' in your life and decide for yourself.   Perhaps, duck and dodge the shoulds and create the wills, wants and 'oh this feels best for me'.  You decide.

I wish you your greatest way of living your life.

The instructor’s words were "Never 'should' on yourself or another."  Ha!