'reach(ed) the unreachable star' yesterday. Our relationship is at a whole new depth. There isn't anything outstanding that I need to discuss with him that is bothering me or holding me back or that gives me a headache! lol
We have worked through many issues, thoughts, situations, experiences and reconnected at a deep, deep, level. I always knew he is my soul mate. I was so very, very, very, much in love with him and he was my dearest and deepest trusted friend when we married. I do not know how people that do not have this strong of a connection stay married as months, years, decades go by. It is, without a doubt, a 'place' to reach and grow to one of the deepest levels of who we are.
So, as I recover from a weekend of talk, banter, discussions and learning how to communicate each other's way at it's (hopefully) depth: his in business mode, mine in feel mode..... Wowza. We both expressed what we needed to and we were heard and listened to.
HUGE.
I'm tired just as I discuss it here ever so briefly. It brings me back to numbers, percentages, fractions and huge, in-depth, spreadsheets. I kid you not. I found myself bored and not able to take it all in. And, when I decided I can do this for the sake of 'reaching the unreachable star', it worked. I'm sure that he is also drained. It took a lot of work for us to connect through what is not our strongest points. I have business savvy and he has feelings, but it takes a lot of work from each of us for the opposite of what we are good at "to be front and center and present for extended periods. I found I was able to speak in a way that I knew she heard me and she was able to speak in a way she knew I heard her... this required a lot of active listening."
"After spending many frustrating conversations for us both, huge energy draining attempts to get on the same page"*...we have found our communication, for today, for us both to speak and to be heard. "It feels glorious."*
*quoted from my husband (how about that!)
May you learn how to communicate in your most important relationship(s) as you may reach your glory on a deepest possible level.
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